I’ve seen a link to this article on Facebook today from about a dozen different moms. Even though my child is still in my body, I can completely relate to what the author is writing about. And Crystal, over at Money Saving Mom, wrote an article not that long ago on something similar (now I can’t find it!). Even though I agree with the article, that’s not the end of the story. And I don’t think the situation applies to just the moms of the world!
Less than a month ago I found myself questioning why I read certain blogs and websites and why I was friends with certain people on Facebook. There are people who, while they are just sharing their lives with the world, really bring my self-confidence down! Some of these people I know personally, and some I’ll never encounter in real life. I came to the point of realization that in order to be happy about myself and where I’m at in life, I had to stop reading their websites/blogs and/or had to block their feed from my Facebook page.
Sure these people may blog about the greatness of their lives…or the one or two aspects they want others to know. They may not tell me/us that their marriage is struggling, their child is out of control, they’re in debt up to their eyeballs, they don’t have a lick of creativity, or are completely unhappy in areas of their non-blogging niche. They may hide the dirt while they take post-worthy pictures that they’ll then Photoshop, all for the sake of visual loveliness on their site.
I want to be content exactly where the Lord has me. And I have to realize that…
-I will NEVER be a size two, and heck, probably will never be less than a size 8 (which is what I was at my smallest). I love food and food loves to stay on my hips, gut, thighs and butt.
And I need to be ok with that! The Lord loves me regardless of my body shape and size.
- I will never own a wardrobe worthy of a fashion show. While I like cute clothes, it is highly unlikely that I’m going to utilize my family budget to be able to wear them on a daily basis.
-Nor will my hair and makeup look like that of a runway model. I want to look good for my husband, I don’t want to look like a rat lives in my hair, and I want to make sure my skin isn’t the last priority in life. It’s not that I don’t care, because I do. I just don’t make the effort to look like I just stepped out of a magazine shoot.
-I will never have a perfectly decorated house. I love Pottery Barn to the end of the earth and back, but my house will never be featured on the pages of its catalogue.
-My house will contain clutter at any given point in time. Martha Stewart I am not. Heloise, I am not either. If you think I have it all together, I invite you to drop by unannounced. There are currently piles of “stuff” on my kitchen island and table, on my couch, in my bedroom, in my bonus room and about everywhere else in between. The nursery looks like a bomb exploded in there too!
-My lawn will never win the green thumb award for our neighborhood…if we had one. Joe is highly allergic to all things outdoors. I used to love the smell of fresh-cut grass…and now I can’t stop sneezing, coughing, or drying my watery eyes. We’re fortunate enough to be able to afford to have someone cut our grass & trim the hedges for us (or else we’d die trying to do it ourselves). However, I’m not going to break the bank to make sure my lawn could win an award.
And guess what, I am 100% ok with that!
-My blog may never reach world-wide popularity. To which I say, excellent! Less stress, fewer people to criticize the fact that I’m currently not willing to shell out big bucks to have someone create a custom design because I’m too computer clueless to design my own.
-My photo taking skills are on the level of a preschooler. We’ll just leave it at that.
-We can’t take off any time we want to travel the world. I can’t begin to tell you how many people I’ve seen/read about doing this lately. We’ve not had a vacation since last August/September, and will not have another one until that time this year. Granted, it’s because we’re saving up the time for our little guy, but still!
While I may never have any of those things, I do have SO much! I serve a Lord that loves me and forgives me for all of my short-comings. I have a husband whom I adore, and I think he’s pretty fond of me too! We have been blessed so abundantly, after struggling with years of infertility, to be expecting our little boy in the next 5 or so weeks. I have a home that is comfortable. So comfortable you can come in, kick your shoes off (if your feet don’t smell), and curl up on our couch to read a book or watch a movie. I have an incredible family who is very supportive of Joe and I, and they already spoil our little boy rotten! I have friends that I can call upon most any time of the day…friends that will go for walks with me or meet me at Chick-fil-a for a caffeine free diet Coke and a wonderful chat. We have financial stability, which is not what more than half the population can say right now. We have a great church and church family, where the Word of the Lord is taught by men who want nothing more than to share the Love of Christ with everyone they encounter. And my list can go on and on and on…
So that, my friends, is why I’ve had to quit visiting websites of friends and strangers, why I no longer subject myself to the torture I was creating for myself because I didn’t feel I measured up to the standards around me.