That’s My Son: How Moms Can Influence Boys to Become Men of Character- This book was a tough one for me to read. It’s an “ok” book from my point of view, but I wouldn’t read it again. It was hard for me because it is geared directly at single moms raising boys. But no where does it say or allude to that. Johnson quotes a lot of things from a few authors/books, including Wild at Heart by John Eldredge and Dr. Dobson’s Bringing up Boys, both of which I’d rather have invested my money in. If anyone reading this is a single mom trying to raise a boy(s), then this book would be great for you! Because that is not our situation, it was harder for me to appreciate some of the points he was trying to make. There were a few things I took away from the book, but those could have been obtained from other books addressing raising boys. I was honestly left a little disappointed in my purchase.
I struggled long and hard about what to read next. The first book I read from my goals list touched on the spiritual aspect of my life, the second on the organizational side. I had hoped the third book would be something great geared towards bringing a child, a son, into the world. Since I was disappointed, I considered going straight for another book focused on babies. As much as I wanted to read something about preparing for him, I felt deep in my heart that I should read something focused on my marriage. I’m in no way, shape, or form saying there is anything wrong with my marriage. In fact, I consider myself to be pretty darn blessed to have such a great one! Even so, I think everyone can benefit from trying to grow and strengthen their marriages. I doubt it does any harm to try to be a better wife or husband, especially if you’re approaching it from a Biblical standpoint.
My So-Called Life as a Proverbs 31 Wife by Sara Horn was an incredible, quick read. I did not want to put it down after reading the first page. Sara Horn is a great author, very “real”. This book is by no means a guide to obtaining the characteristics of the Proverbs 31 wife. In fact, what caused Horn to try this experiment was when her pastor preached on the subject and she got infuriated by the standards in which the Proverbs 31 wife lives. She thought it was completely unrealistic but set out to see if it was possible in the world we live in today. The book details her journey in a very “real” way. She doesn’t hide behind her emotions and openly discusses her struggles as a woman, as a wife, as a mother, and as child of God. The end of the book doesn’t leave you feeling like a failure if you’re not obtaining all the characteristics of the P31 wife. In fact, Horn’s realization is will leave you feeling better, not worse, about yourself.
As a Christian, as a woman, and as a wife, its hard for me not to want to strive for the qualities the Proverbs 31 woman possesses. I can honestly say that I’m not hitting home runs over here.
Take yesterday for example. I had a morning full of errands and then essentially crashed for the afternoon (hello bread of idleness). One of my errands involved me dropping a pile of clothes off at the tailor to be hemmed. When she told me the final price due at pickup, I almost choked. $35 for 5 pairs of pants. THIRTY FIVE dollars. It kills me because I have the materials and capability to hem them myself. However, I’m lacking the motivation, the energy, or quite frankly, the desire. And I think a lot of that boils down to the fact that I worry I will screw something up and someone will walk around looking like a dork with one pant leg higher than the other.
It’s not about hemming pants. It’s about taking care of my family, taking care of our home, being good stewards of our time and resources. But it’s also a big part about my attitude when doing these things. I didn’t want to cook dinner tonight. I am tired from not sleeping well and my leg was on fire from standing a lot today (I have nerve issues in my left leg). I grumbled through cleaning up, even though Joe helped me with the few dishes we had. Emily = bad attitude = not glorifying God at all.
I’ll never be the Proverbs 31 woman, I get that. God hasn’t called me to be her, He’s called me to be me…his Child, a faithful follower, trusting in Him the entire way.
But it still doesn’t keep me from wanting to possess qualities that she does.
I tried the whole “New Years Resolution” thing numerous times. I succeeded once and failed miserably more times than I can count. Instead, I like setting tangible goals for myself. A checklist of sorts. Why? Because I love lists. I love being able to cross something off and that sense of accomplishment that comes with it. So, without further adieu, here are my (Emily) goals for 2012.
~Have a baby, bring him home, and love him like crazy!
I could seriously stop there, but of course there are other things I’d like to accomplish in the new year (and of course these are in no particular order)
~Never fail to let Joe know how much I love and appreciate him
~Be as prepared as possible for birth-especially when it comes to relaxation techniques
~Study God’s word more
~Put together a nursery
~Turn the tv off more…especially when its on simply for background noise
~Cook, on average, one new thing a month (obviously post natal will be a little more challenging)
~Get more serious about couponing. This past year I’ve slacked off, and once I will be a SAHM, I really need to have my act together
~Go to the gym twice a week
~Declutter, which shouldn’t be hard considering I’ve entered into the nesting phase (more to come in another post)
~Stock our freezer with meals for after the baby is born
~Make at least 8 new things this year from my list:
- Sourdough bread (I’m going to ask my friend Rebekah for her recipe because hers is SO good!)
Shower cleanerFinished, January 2012
- Curtains for our bonus room
- It Is Well sign (I need to get contact paper that I can peel off)
- Decorative fan for nursery
- Menu board
- New bag
- More grocery bags
- Burp cloths for boys, since all I have left in my stash is girly!
- Casserole carrier
- Prayer board
- Ironing board cover
- Hanging gift wrap organizer
- Curtains for the nursery
~Read at least 15 books in 2012 from my list of books I want to read:
The Bradley Method of Natural ChildbirthFinished, January 2012
- Natural Hospital Birth- The Best of Both Worlds
- The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding
- Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child
Bringing Up BoysFinished, January 2012
- Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids With the Love of Jesus
- The Ministry of Motherhood: Following Christ’s Example in Reaching the Hearts of Our Children
- Blogger Behave: Make You Blog Benefit Your Life, So You Can Love Both
QuitterFinished, January 2012
- The Happiness Project
Crazy LoveFinished January 2012
- The Joy of Pregnancy
- Still Growing: An Autobiography
- unSweetined: A Memoir
Erasing Hell: What God Said About Eternity and The Things We’ve Made UpFinished, January 2012 Thats My Son: How Moms Can Influence Boys to Become Men of CharacterFinished, January 2012
- Born to Run
The Christian Mama’s Guide to Havinga Baby: Everything You Need to Know to Survive (and Love) Your PregnancyFinished, January 2012 My So-Called Life as a Proverbs 31 WifeFinished, January 2012
- The Resolution for Women
- A Life That Says Welcome: Simple Ways to Open Your Heart & Home to Others
- The Air I Breathe
Organized SimplicityFinished, January 2012
- Kisses From Katie: A Story of Relentless Love and Redemption
(I’m quite thankful for my new Kindle Fire. I get a short time of free access to the Amazon Lending Library, in which I’ll be able to borrow at least two of the books above for free!)
*I am going to frequent this post to check off things as I accomplish them! I will post monthly or quarterly updates!*
What goals are you setting for yourself in 2012?
The bag that I recently made for my neice Ashley’s birthday! She will be visiting us next week! We’ll be doing lots of cooking and having fun!